Playing Sides

I dropped my son off this afternoon after having him for 3 days. I am just amazed at how in tune he is to what me and his mother are going through. He will always talk smack about the "new dude" and how he doesn't really like him all that much. Like I have stated he is a skateboarder and my son has taken it up. Which is fine by me. I think my son thinks it will hurt my feelings that he enjoys skateboarding with this guy. As long as my son is happy I am happy. I have brought this up to my wife and she told me that he says the same stuff about me. Told her how he really doesn't like fishing and going on our hikes. It's all bullshit. He is trying not to hurt my feelings or his mothers and "new dude".

I guess he is going to a wrestling match next month. I am not a huge fan of that but it should be fun for him. I just wonder what my soon to be ex is doing. There is no way in hell I ever watched wrestling and I know she isn't into it. Kind of makes me wonder what the hell she is with him for. Oh you know besides, "he has more going for him", than I do.

I am now on my crappy shifts at work and will only see my son for about a day and a half in the next 14 days. It sucks but then I get to see him a whole bunch in a short amount of time. I think I am going to take my son to Shenandoah in June. Will be nicer and should have a good chance to see some of the wild life we are looking for.

It's all good. I just need to make more money. Resumes are out.

outdoorsy

i just finished reading this book that I had heard about from a friend. It's called, "Last Child in the Woods". It's basically about how nobody is bringing their children outside anymore. By outside I mean into nature.

I am not a full member of the tree hugger establishment but I do think a lot of the whole global warming debate that is going on. I wasn't introduced into the wild world of nature until my mid teens and I keep exploring as much as I can to this day. My soon to be ex seemed to be onboard with going on hikes and going out and exploring the outside world. Seems that the "new dude" is a skateboarder with his own ramp in his yard and has very little interest or knowledge of the outdoors. By no means am I brainiac of the outdoors but I can tell you what some trees are by the leaves and what kind of fauna is along the trail. I have encountered many animals in their elements...ranging from moose to groundhogs. Not to mention I can make a campfire with 1 match.

Anyway, this book discusses how people especially of my generation that have kids are not going outside anymore. Everybody is so tied down to technology and the creature comforts of air conditioning. While I was reading this book I had taken my son to the park a few times and my son was more into turning over rocks to see what lay beneath. He had asked a few other boys if they wanted to join him on an insect hunt. They replied with, "ewwwww". As far as the state of the planet is concerned I think it would be good to get your kid involved and have a love for the outdoors. That way when they are older we can have stewards for this crazy eco-system. Just my opinion anyway.

The book also went on to tell about how good it is for children to go out and explore the local woods. It stimulates creativity. Also has been known to help children with A.D.D.

I went fishing with my son again this afternoon and he fished for about 10 minutes and went exploring. He found some dragonflies and he came up to me with two of them on the sleeve of his shirt. Not to mention when I would hook a fish I would have him reel it in and once on shore he would ask me a dozen questions about the fish. I taught him how to hold a bluegill and bass. All I could do was smile.

good stuff

I have been busy with my son for the last few days. A few weeks ago he found my old tackle box and wanted to try it out. I bought him a fishing rod and the rest is history. We went fishing for the first time on Easter. He wound up catching his first fish and has been hooked since.

Things between me and his mother have been pretty good. We seem to have good communication and are getting along well. She was supposed to have her wisdom teeth pulled this week but can't afford the co-pay. I asked her why her new boy toy couldn't help her out. It makes no sense to me that this dude doesn't help out in situations I would think a new boy toy would. He never helped her move. What the hell is he all about? I just don't get it. I am filing my seperation papers soon...as I have been paying a ton of bills and give my lawyer money when I can. Will keep you informed.

My soon to be ex is always complaining about about how she has no money to do anything with our son. I just laugh. I am able to go out and do a ton of things for free or next to nothing. When I have him for the weekends I will get the local paper on a Friday and they have a section to tell you what's going on over the weekend. Most things are free and right up our alley. Then some things cost less than $10 for both of us to participate in. It's all about resources and using them.

Next month I am going to be taking my son down to Shenandoah Nat'l Park. He wants to see deer, bear, fish, raccoons, skunk and a mole. I think I can make most of those happen...the mole may be tough. I went to REI about a month or so ago and bought him some good hiking boots and he has put on about 30 miles in them already. He can easily do a 4 mile hike with no complaining. Which brings me up to a topic I will probably write about later this evening when I get back. Nobody reads this thing on a regular basis anyway so no hurry I suppose.

kind of touching

Today I had a "moment" with a fellow co-worker. He pulled me off to the side and had told me that he may be going through a divorce soon. He had asked me how I could do it and how I seemed to come to work like nothing was going on outside of work. I was kind of surprised when he came and asked me this stuff. He is a buff nugget and we have exchanged words more than once.

I told him that he needs to be cool and take a break and make sure it something that he wants to do. Said that he needs to be able to sit down and talk with his wife and discuss what is going on. If divorce is decided upon then he needs to be ready to be able to communicate with her and talk things out and make it as easy as possible.

I like to consider myself a mans man but I am just a big pussy. I was watching that home make over show and wound up crying like 4 times during the show. I have no idea what is up with that or why I even shared that with you. I was just glad that I could be looked at as a guy that had his shit together and someone could come and talk to me about such a big thing.

Other than that nothing else is new. I am working and will be getting my son this weekend which is kick ass and I can't wait. I have been getting my son into fishing and being more outdoors. The weather has been amazing. These are the times I am glad I am on the east coast. the grass is getting greener and the trees are blooming. I just bought a book about how important it is to take children outdoors. It was pretty good and hope to find it again soon. I would suggest it to anybody that isn't afraid to put on a pair of hiking boots and spend a day in the woods turning over rocks and logs looking for bugs and anything else that may be down there. Just my advice.

Well, I am outta here. I will try and write about something that is more attractive to the mind.